DEAR DOCTOR K: I have two children in elementary school. When they were younger, I disciplined them with timeouts. How should discipline change as they get older?
DEAR READER: Discipline is important for children of all ages. But you're right: The style of encouraging discipline changes somewhat as children get older. At whatever age, the goal is not to punish, but rather to teach self-control and the difference between acceptable (right) and unacceptable (wrong) behaviors. In answering questions about kids, I rely a lot on the advice of pediatrician colleagues here at Harvard Medical School.